I thought I’d follow up my previous post about changing your situation, with one about overcoming those beliefs that may be holding you back from the life of your dreams.
If you’re anything like me, you have perhaps dreamed about the future, what job you’d be doing, what hobbies you’d have, where you’d be travelling, what your perfect life would look like. But, as I’ve often done, you think “there’s no way I’m good enough to achieve that”, or words to that effect at least.
You may look at your role model, or someone living that life you dream of, and think you’ll never be as good/rich/capable as them, and then ever even try. The thing is, we all have to start somewhere! For example, if that person you are inspired by is an amazing photographer, chances are they didn’t pick up a camera first time and get the perfect shot! Chances also are that the photos you’re currently looking at are just one out of hundreds or even thousands of shots that didn’t hit the mark!
It takes effort, dedication, perseverance, practice and patience to get good at something, but we have it within us to achieve great things with the right mindset. If you try something and it doesn’t go as well as you’d hoped, or it takes longer than you anticipated to start seeing improvement, the most important thing is that you go back the next day and keep trying.
If you enjoy it, and you really want to get good at it, the only thing standing in your way is you.
If you go into something with the attitude ‘I can’t do that’, ‘I’m not clever enough to learn this’, or a similar attitude, of course you won’t be any good at it! The key is starting with that belief, even if you have to fake it a bit. Try: ‘I love to learn’, ‘I am patient and dedicated’, ‘I am capable of anything I set my mind to’ and see where that takes you!
It’s also totally acceptable to try a new hobby and not enjoy it! To stick with something for a while, notice an improvement, get really good at it even, but then realise it’s not actually making your heart happy – absolutely fine! Go try something else.
Same goes for if you have a natural talent for something – Maybe you started dancing at the age of 2 and 20 years later you’re a professional ballerina because you thought it would be a crime to waste your gifts, but secretly you’d much rather be a pastry chef. It’s not a crime! Go and learn how to whip and blend, temper and laminate ’til your heart’s content my friend!
My point is, don’t be afraid to fail. Don’t be afraid to take the leap and fall, because falling is better than never leaping in the first place. You are capable of anything you put your mind to. You are worthy of pursuing dreams that make your heart burst with joy.
I hope to hear all your stories of your new hobbies very soon!